Husband keeps track of wife’s reasons for refusing sex, did he go too far?

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Here’s something that’ll stimulate conversation at the water cooler. A woman posted a spreadsheet to Reddit that was sent by her husband, documenting the reasons she gave for not having sex with him.

The excuses listed included, “You’re too drunk,” I”m watching the show (Friends re-run),” and “I’m sweaty and gross..”


After receiving the email, his wife tried contacting him but couldn’t, so she wrote on Reddit: “Husband sends a message to my work email … he’s never done this, we always communicate in person or by text.

“I open it up and it’s a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won’t miss me for the 10 days I’m gone.

“Attached is a spreadsheet of all the times he has tried to initiate sex, with a column for my ‘excuses,’ using verbatim quotes of why I didn’t feel like having sex at that very moment.”

According to the spreadsheet, the man tried to initiate sex every day from June 3 to July 16 — and succeeded three times.

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    • J

      Maybe he has bad breath or doesn’t bathe or shave. Who wants to be near someone who doesn’t take care of personal hygiene? Or maybe he crushes her when he’s done. Or maybe he’s done and doesn’t care if she’s satisfied. We can tell who is all wrapped up in themselves I guess.

      • Andrew

        Well those are a lot of unfounded speculations. Maybe he’s the best man ever and she’s a witch. It’s just as likely as anything you’ve postulated.

      • Antonio Marriedman Johnson

        Are you serious? Him being gross??? She doesn’t bath when she feels gross. How gross is that? She doesn’t keep up with hygiene obviously.

    • 147

      Same feminazis backing up women because men have “privilege.”

      Protip: Don’t want a man to cheat on you? Make sure YOU, the one HE wants and CHOSE to be in a committed relationship with, is sexually fulfilled by YOU.

      99% of the time, that is sufficient.

      Fail to do this? I’d tell you not to point the finger squarely at him but you will anyway.

    • mary kay

      Maybe he already cheated and that’s why. Did you ever think of that? Of course not, your a guy. Lol

      • Aaron

        If he cheated don’t you think she would have mentioned that in her reddit post? Didn’t you think of that? Of course not, you’re a woman.

  • Chris

    I fully relate to the man in this story. I figure the poll is skewed with more women voters then men.

  • 2econd

    it would be interesting to see if he just stopped asking, bet she would accuse him of cheating…

  • Chad

    Also the report is wrong. It wasn’t every day he was asking. More like 3+ / week. 3+ a week for two 26 year olds I feel is actually a bit low.

  • Dirk

    Maybe he needs to romance her a bit more! Maybe she should shower at night so she doesn’t feel gross! Who knows maybe she is just lazy but that’s a creative way to make her see how he feels

  • Cheri

    Obviously he’s only focused on one thing and looking to get that “one thing” out of his marriage. My opinion? He doesn’t deserve any sex or woman for that matter…

  • nita

    It’s amazing how different everyone thinks. The bible tells us that once we marry, our bodies don’t just belong to us. So intimacy is very important in a relationship. Communication is also very important. If there are some sexual issues then they need to be discussed before they become divorce issues.

    • Mallory

      So glad you mentioned this Biblical principle. My husband and I agreed before marrying to adhere to this “rule”. Per scripture, if one of us wants the body of the other, we do not withhold. I know some people think its archaic or consider it weak submissiveness, but think it has added a level of strength to our marriage. To be fair, we truly love each other, so we are never aggressively demanding about it. That said, with love and understanding, we always say yes to the other. It’s pretty frackin awesome. :-)

      • Todd

        I love this! I don’t understand why more people don’t approach it that way. Yes, obviously sometime you may not really feel like it for whatever reason, but if your partner is interested why not keep them that way. I think the contrary would have a more likely chance to cause a problem. You guys are great!

  • Ben

    She should jump in the shower if she’s feeling gross. At least take care of your man even if you don’t want to fully follow through. I know as a man, I do a lot of things for my wife I wouldn’t ordinarily do because she’d my wife and I love her… Not sure if there is really love here, and that’s where problems start.


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  • lisa

    Maybe it’s the way he’s asking. When you get asked everyday after no sleep stressed out wore out and tired. Can I have some booty tonight? Kinda looses all the romance and becomes just another chore. And with him asking like that everyday he seems to know that and he doesn’t seem tocare. it’s all about him. Like him throwing it in her face like that via email. I mean really no Love lost it would seem

  • Sara

    I think she should write down the things he’s done to make her feel special or chores he’s done around the house and make a list of his excuses lol

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